STOP Stealing Our Thunder!

From blog Script For A Jester's Tear, never posted, originally written March 23, 2010

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I'm not sure why I never posted this to Script. I do know in reading it that I don't think I was finished with the post. Obviously, I never got back to it. In many ways, this is more a rant than my previous blogs; just venting something I was feeling at the time.

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STOP Stealing Our Thunder!

I went to the AAC Conference this past weekend, and I noticed that there was a lot of desire to even out the pain issues between adoptees, first moms and adoptive parents.  That EVERYONE had/has their own pain, and that we should recognize that EVERYONE is allowed their own pain.

While I understand this, and do agree with it to a point, something that overcame me while I went through the conference was that the adoptees are the ONLY people in the triad who were given NO voice in the matter.  And I started thinking, "wait a minute!  Even though we're adults, WE are the ones this thing called adoption was done to!  Why do you have to usurp our pain and make it your own?  Why do you have to make it all about YOU, and not US?"

Why is it SO important that everyone have a piece of this pie?  To me, it marginalizes what adoptees go through.  And while I know this wasn't the intent, this was one of the messages I received at the conference.

I KNOW first moms have their own pain, and I KNOW that infertile couples who adopt have their own pain, and I will never purposefully marginalize their pain, but I just wish they would stop doing it to us in return.